It is true…to get friends you must first be a friend to others. The Bible tells us to put others before ourselves and to look for ways to lift each other up.
“And let us consider and give attentive, continuous care to watching over one another, studying how we may stir up (stimulate and incite) to love and helpful deeds and noble activities,” Hebrews 10:24 (Amplified Bible)
If you find yourself sitting around wondering, “Why doesn’t anyone do anything nice for me?” or, “I really wish I had friends.” You can make a decision today to pick yourself up out of that self-pity party (I’ve been there. I know the feeling.), and make a decision right now that you are going to start being a friend and trust God to bring you the friends you need. You cannot give others the responsibility for getting and keeping you happy. It is not fair to them. That job should belong to the Lord, who alone is the “lifter of my head.” (Psalm 3:3)
You focus on taking care of others, and let God take care of you! There are many practical, simply ways to do this. Who is the first person who comes to your mind right now? OK, take a minute and write a note to that person, encouraging them. Just let them know that God brought them to your mind today. Maybe tell them something you admire about them, and let them know they’re in your heart and prayers. And put that note in the mail. Yes, I said mail, as in envelopes and stamps and such. J I know email is quicker and easier, but it is just that. Taking the time (and it is very little time) to actually write out a note and put it in the mail will show that person that they were worth that time. And in a day when the mail is mostly junk and bills, just imagine what a special treat it will be to find a personal, encouraging note in the stack. Or you can bake some cookies for someone, or give them a call (not a text!). There are many simply ways to reach out and impact someone. Don’t sit around and wait for someone to do something for you. Set about doing good and blessing others. (Acts 10:38) In the process you will begin to feel much better as you take the focus off of yourself and reach out to others in love.
“So then, whatever you desire that others would do to and for you, even so do also to and for them,” Matthew 7:12a (Amplified Bible)
A friend is a precious thing, and if you surround yourself with others who love the Lord you will find that He will use them to minister to you when you need it the most.
“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17 (NKJV)
Thank you, Jodi for inspiring this post!